HOW TO DEAL WITH FEAR

Do you know that fear is false evidence appearing real? Sometimes in life you will be faced with situations whereby there will be evidences that are false appearing real. Fear will torment you and leave you paralysed. The only cure to fear is faith. Believe beyond circumstances. 

Clear your mind of the Past : You will always be free as your mind is free. The battlefield is always in your mind. Its a point where strongholds of the past are. The strong holds of fear and other dissapointments. Experience should make you wiser in terms of strategies and how you perceive life. But always free your mind as much as possible.

Something is about to happen in your life: Things happen all the time, good or bad but its always dark before dawn. We pass through darkness to experience the light. We pass through trouble to appreciate calmness. No darkness comes after darkness until afternoon passes. Always believe that the next phase of your life will always be better than the previous. Try to find the rainbow after the storm because its there. Dont be afraid that later will be like the former. There will always be changes in every stage of your life.

Find beauty and peace: You will never be happy unless you are at a state of beauty and peace and tranquility. We often look at the beauty without but not the beauty within. We all want to be in tune with our inner self. Our core values and our inner being, but we often times try to find this in the wrong places. We should always be in the quest to find beauty and nirvana and where its connected.

BENEFITS OF KNOWLEDGE AND ADVENTURE FOR EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

Our minds and souls are constantly in need of exploration and discovery. The reason why we act differently and evolve is because our souls seek new horizons. Our minds need to be refreshend and expanded so as we can stable in our actions and in our ways. As it is said Lunacy is doing the same thing the same way and expecting different results.

We act in a lunacy form whenever we fail to expand our minds and let our souls explore its limitlessness. Knowledge is essential for expanding our minds increasing our possibilities and widening the limits that have been set by ignorance. We must grow in knowledge so as to be free. Emotional intelligence being the ability to perceive, assess and manage our emotions is a crucial attribute to our stability as human beings.

If we invest in knowledge while we let our souls experience wonder we invest in the attribute of emotional intelligence. We not only grow in our ability to manage our emotions but we develop control as to how we can relate our knowledge in a practical way to see wonder and adventure.

How can Knowledge and adventure be used simultaneously for emotional intelligence

1. Always read books of a specific topic in the specific moment at the specific place. That's Practical investment of knowledge.

2. Knowledge has to be put into practise, acquiring knowledge without practising it is a wastage of time. Ensure to always acquire the kind of knowledge you can practise.

3. Explore new horizons, listen don't let your life become a routine of activities that don't allow your soul to explore and experience the adventures of your life time.

4. Visit nature occasionally and meditate on it. This will open your mind and trigger your soul to explore the adventures of naturality.

Always remember that without emotional intelligence we will always be unstable human beings. If emotions aren't managed and assessed skillfully then we will always be human beings of so many imbalances and we will live life not realising the beauty of it.

GHARAMA NA KIPIMO CHA UVUMILIVU

Je wajua kila jambo bora huja na gharama ya uvumilivu. Kila jambo unalohitaji katika maisha huja na gharama ya uvumilivu huku ukikua katika nidhamu katika hicho kipindi cha uvumilivu. Kuna wakati unaweza dhani unaishi katika ndoto pale unapozungumza mambo pasipo kuyaona katika uhalisia.

Imani ni kuwa na uhakika wa mambo ambayo unayo katika fikra lakini bado hayajadhiirika. Unaweza omba msitu lakini ukapata mbegu ya msitu na ukaanza kujiuliza hii mbegu naifanyia nini. Unaweza kuwa na maono ya kujenga familia bora yenye kila hitaji muhimu likiwa limekamilika lakini ukajikuta unapata mwenza ambaye amekamilika katika hitaji la kinafsi lakini mahitaji ya kimali bado inakubidi uvumilie pengine hata uwekeze muda zaidi. Ni wewe kutambua kuwa hiyo uliyonayo ni mbegu bora inayohitaji udongo mzuri ili ichipue yale unayohitaji.

Hitaji la nafsi ni changamoto kubwa na wengi wamekuwa wakipata mahitaji mengine lakini wamekuwa wakiishi pasipo kuridhika kwakuwa mahitaji ya kinafsi wamekuwa wakiyakosa. Tambua kuwa kuna nyakati ambazo uvumilivu na imani yako itawekwa katika kipimo ili kuimarika katika uthabiti wa kimaamuzi. Kila jambo huwa zuri kwa muda kama likijengwa juu ya uaminifu, maono na nia thabiti ya kulisababisha lile jambo litokee katika uhalisia wake.

Lazima ufike kipindi ambacho imani yako itakuwa katika kipimo, lazima ifike kipindi utajiuliza je haya mambo ninayoyatazamia ni ndoto tu za mchana au kweli nitakuja kuyathibitisha. Unapofika katika kipindi hicho uimara wako na imani yako na fikra chanya ndizo zitakazokuvusha kuyapata yale unayoyahitaji na kuyatazamia.

Hakuna ndoto kwa mtu mwenye dhamira ya dhati na kila wakati anahangaika kutafuta njia za kutekeleza yale anayoyaona katika maono yake. Bali ni hatma ya muda na uvumilivu wa huyu mtu akisimama imara katika kutegemea yaliyo bora na yale anayoyatazamia. Usijione kuwa mwenye ndoto tu pengine labda unatazamia mambo ambayo kwa sasa huwezi yapata. Tambua kuwa dhamira ya dhati na utayari wa kujitoa huku ukichanganya na uvumilivu ukiendelea kukua kinafsi vitathibitisha ndoto zako na maono yako.

WEKEZA KATIKA UIMARA WA NDANI

Nyumba imara ni ile yenye msingi imara. Msingi mara nyingi hufukiwa chini lakini ndio uimara wa jengo zima ulipo. Vivyo hivyo uimara wako kwa mambo yanayoonekana unatokana na uimara wako wa ndani, uimara wa nafsi. Japo nje waweza onekana imara lakini kipimo pekee cha uimara wako wa ndani ni mtikisiko.

Mtikisiko mkubwa utakaopata ni pale ambapo misingi yako ya ndani itatikiswa. Pale ambapo utawekwa katika mazingira ambayo yatakubidi upime mitazamo yako, upime sheria zako, upime utaratibu wako na kuu kuliko yote upime utambulisho wako. Na ndio maana katika kipindi cha mtikisiko unaweza poteza dira ya utambulisho wako, imani yako na hata utaratibu wako.

Mtikisiko unapoingia lazima uingie uzito wakati huo huo inaingia hali ya hamaki na taharuki. Hapo ndipo utajikuta unafanya maamuzi ambayo hayana faida kwako, hapo utajikuta unaingiwa na ukungu katika macho yako ya ndani ya maono yako.

Hali hiyo ni ya kawaida hasa pale unapotoka katika mfumo mmoja kwenda mwingine, kawaida moja kwenda nyingine. Pale unapotaka kuishi mitazamo yako na ndoto zako kwa mkupuo. Pale unapotaka kukimbia kabla hujapasha joto miguu kwa kutembea. Ni vema ukapasha joto miguu yako na kufurahia kabla hujaanza kukimbia.

Uhuru wa nafsi unahitaji nidhamu na maono yaliyo sambamba na uhalisia. Jaribu kwenda kwa utaratibu lakini ukiwa na uharaka wa kifikra kuchukua maamuzi. Kuwa muwazi juu ya hali yako na utafute watu wachache ambao watakuchoma sindano ya hamasa na watakuamini. Ambao wako tayari kusimama na kukupa moyo.

Unaweza kujiimarisha kwa kuendelea kujipa hamasa na kuwa na fikra chanya, ukichukulia kila changamoto kama njia ya kujiimarisha. Usitafute kujipa kisingizio kama unajua unaweza kujiimarisha. Kila wakati ongeza nguvu yako ya ndani kwa kusimama tena hata kama umechoka. Misuli huja kwa kuongeza zaidi, kujiinua zaidi na kuamini ipo siku mambo yatakuwa mazuri.

MAKE YOUR THOUGHTS FUTURE ORIENTED

One of the greatest challenges to thinking is the directions of your thoughts, Are your thoughts future oriented or past oriented? Is the direction of your thoughts forward or backwards? Backward oriented thoughts are a resistance to future pursuit. The quest to the future needs a future oriented mindset.

If you are constantly thinking backwards rather than thinking forwards then you create a resistance in your forward movement. When you think backward you create a force that pulls you backwards to the past. But if you think forward you create a force that pulls you forward to your future.

You can never move in a direction where your thoughts aren't directed, Don't ever fall in the trap of the mind of thinking backwards. Thinking backwards is thinking about things past, its entertaining past thoughts, its your reluctance to delete the past from your system. The duty of the past is to give you a motivation to create a platform for the future you want. Once you find the gear of the future, drive in the future mode and set your mind there.

Never inter-change your present gear with your past gear, its dangerous, You can only change your present gear with your future gear to increase the momentum and increase a boost of enthusiasm. How do you inter change present gear with future gear....Its by consuming some of the future ideas and dreams and instill them in the present, You cant consume all of them or else your present will be crowded and you wont find pleasure in the process

Its very important to think forward, just analyse yourself in the times you sit down to think what are the directions of your thoughts? Present, Past or future. Ask yourself also when you want to act on something and thoughts come in your mind in your analysis where are those thoughts from? Past or future... If you realise that its your past that brings out most of your thoughts then its time to change.

Make the future be the source of your thoughts and let the future interchange gears of motivation in your quest to pursue life.

KIWANGO CHA MAANDALIZI YAKO KIKOJE?

Kuna dhana inayosema njia pekee ya kutabiri hatma yako ni kuitengeneza na ukishindwa kujiandaa unajiandaa kushindwa. Ni dhana zenye ukweli kabisa katika maisha yetu ya kila siku. Maandalizi ni jambo ambalo linaweza kukuonyesha hatma ya mchezo, yawezekana dhana hii isiwe na uhalisia wa jumla katika maeneo mengine hasa pale watu wanapojiandaa lakini bado wanashindwa. Jambo la muhimu ni je unajiandaa kwa kipimo gani na pia unajiandaa katika msingi upi.

Kutokujiandaa na kujiandaa kwa jambo lisilo na uwiano na hatma yako inaweza leta changamoto sawa jambo hilo linapofika. Kuna mambo yanaweza fika ukashindwa kuyahimili kwasababu hukuwa na maàndalizi imara kuyahimili hayo mambo.

Nataka nizungumzie juu ya maswali ambayo watu wanakuwa nayo hasa wanapokuwa wakisubiria jambo fulani litokee, mara nyingi hukaa wakitazama wengine ambao wanategemea jambo hilo hilo au lenye usawa wa namna hiyo wakisonga mbele na kulipata huku wao wakiendelea kusubiri, Maandalizi yanaweza kuwa ya muda mrefu au muda mfupi inategemea na uzito wa jambo lako.

Ukienda katika sehemu ya mgahawa ukaagiza chakula cha thamani sana au chakula kinachohitaji maandalizi utasubiri sana na pengine utashangaa mwingine anayekuja kuomba kinywaji akiandaliwa na kupata mapema, ukadhani labda unafanyiwa makusudi, hapana maandalizi ya chakula chako yanahitaji muda kwasababu umeomba chakula kinachohitaji umakini, muda na uwekezaji mkubwa kukiandaa, hivo haimaanishi kuwa umefanya makosa kuagiza chakula hicho.

Wengi wamejikuta wakibadilisha matazamio yao na kuamua kufanya mambo tofauti na matazamio yao kwasababu maandalizi yao yamekuwa ya muda mrefu. Tatizo halikuwa katika muda wa maandalizi bali tatizo lilikuwa katika uwezo wa kusubiri na misukumo ya kulitwaa jambo lile kwa wakati huo.

Cha msingi ni kuhakikisha unajiandaa katika kila jambo unalolihitaji, usiseme nitajiandaa hilo jambo likija, muda mwingine unaweza jiandaa lakini usifanikiwe kwa wakati huo, haimaanishi maandalizi yako hayakuwa na mantiki, hapana endelea na maandalizi. Katika maandalizi kuna tabia zinaimarika, kuna uwezo unajengeka ndani mwako ambao utakuwezesha kuwa na ufanisi katika hilo jambo litakapokuja.

Tambua kwamba maandalizi siku zote ni jambo endelevu, usichukie vipindi vya maandalizi na kila wakati jua unajiandaa kwa jambo fulani. Haijalishi maandalizi yako yanachukua muda gani. Usiupime muda wa maandalizi pima kiwango cha maandalizi yako. Maandalizi huongeza thamani yako na uwezo wako

LEARN TO IGNORE

The race of life is the one with a lot of obstacles, a lot of hindrances and a lot of oppositions, we all know that and we all have experienced that at some point in life, but there comes the most critical of all a lot of intimidations. If you havent master the art of ignoring voices then you will always fall victim.

When you are walking your walk always know that there are people who will come to intimidate you and try to misfocus you with words. Listen always be ready for that for people will hit you where it hurts you the most, sometimes even people you cant imagine but always guide your heart and mind. Many have grabbed a victim mindset simply because they take everything thrown unto them personal

Don't be intimidated...Learn to ignore, choose not to give full attention to distractions, Its obvious that some will be people very close to you in whom there opinions can have a big impact in you, but one of the greatest thing you need to do is detach yourself from the emotions brought about by people. Its true that you might sometimes fall prey in the predatorial world but stand up, ignore the predators and move on. What doesnt kill you makes you stronger.

Just because people are close doesn't mean that their opinions of you will always be right. Don't let the pressure get into you...Don't be intimidated, learn to ignore the impacts of their words. Learn to ignore, Ignore the negative feelings, ignore the negative emotions. Ignore what seems to bring you down. I challenge you to ignore those voices that keep running through your mind all the times telling you that you are somebody's victim. No you arent. Train your mind to cancel off and ignore.

Say to yourself, i choose to ignore all distractions. One African proverb says a lion doesn't turn back when dogs bark, also the noise of frogs doesn't hinder the elephant from drinking water from the stream. When you have an understanding of what people go through then it wont trouble you when they voice out their opinions out of emotions. Just ignore and move on. Choose to mind your own business and move on. No need to give an airtime to the calls that dont compliment you. Focus on the good. 

USITAFAKARI MAJUTO, TAFAKARI FUNDISHO

Katika maisha tunapitia mambo mengi, njia nyingi na tunakutana na vitu vingi, nafasi nyingi na hata vipindi vingi ambavyo tunatakiwa tufanye maamuzi juu ya mambo kadha wa kadha tunayokutana nayo. Kama binadamu wenye uhuru wa kufanya uchaguzi na utashi kila wakati huwa tunatumia njia zozote zile tulizonazo kufanya maamuzi.

Maamuzi yetu ndiyo ambayo hutengeneza hatima ya maisha yetu au matokeo yanayokuja baada ya hapo. Maamuzi mazuri huleta matokeo mazuri na maamuzi mabaya pia huleta matokeo mabaya. Kila mtu ameshapitia hali ya kufanya maamuzi na kila mtu ametumia uhuru wake wa kinafsi kufanya maamuzi. Changamoto kubwa ni matokeo ya maamuzi yetu na jinsi tunavopokea matokeo ya maamuzi yetu.

Maisha siku zote ni safari endelevu yenye changamoto mbali mbali na safari hiyo huwa vumilivu pale inapoendeka kwa maarifa na ujuzi wa wapi unaelekea. Maisha huhitaji dira na dira ndo itakuelekeza kasi ya kwenda nayo hata njia za kupita kufikia hatma yako. Maarifa ni muhimu sana.

Mara nyingi tumekuwa na mapokeo tofauti tofauti ya matokeo ya maamuzi yetu ambayo wengi wetu yametusababishia kukwama kwa muda mrefu katika dimbwi la maumivu na tukaishia kulalamika, kulaumu, kuwa na mitazamo hasi na hata kupata matatizo mbali mbali ya nafsi. Mara nyingi tumekuwa watu wa majuto badala ya mafunzo

Jambo la muhimu ni kutafakari mafunzo uliyoyapata na uyatumie hayo kama mawe ya kukanyagia kwenda mbele, usikae unajilaumu au unatafakari kwa makosa ya nyuma hata kama yameleta matokeo mabovu katika maisha, badala ya kusema ningejua tafakari aya sasa umejua utafanya nini. Huwezi kubadilisha makosa ya nyuma ila unaweza kufanya mabadiliko ili makosa ya nyuma yasijirudie.

Wengi tunakaa zaidi tunatafakari majuto badala ya kutafakari mafunzo na kufanya yanayohitajika kusonga mbele halafu baadaye unajikuta unarudia kosa lile lile au unapita tena njia ile ile. Badili mtazamo hata kama matokeo ya maamuzi yako mabaya yanaendelea kukutesa kuwa na ujasiri wa kusema nitafanya hivi badala ya ningefanya hivi.

Kumbuka kila mtu ameshafanya kosa fulani ambalo limemgharimu au linamgharimu hadi sasa lakini cha msingi ni kutafakari funzo badala ya majuto.

KUDHIBITI HISIA HASI

Magugu siku zote huota hata sehemu ambazo hazitakiwi, hayaitaji mbegu..yenyewe huota bila kupandwa wala nini, vivo hivo na hisia hasi, huwa haziitaji kazi kubwa kukaa katika nafsi yako. Zinaweza kukuhijia wakati wowote na kwa namna yeyote lakini hisia chanya zinahitaji kupangiliwa, kurutubishwa na kupaliliwa.

Moyo wako kuna wakati unaweza patwa na hisia hasi ambazo zinakuja kutokana na jambo lolote, inawezekana ni uchovu wa kimwili au kiakili, mtu fulani kukukatisha tamaa, mtu fulani kuzungumza na wewe vibaya nk...yamkini ni mtu wako wa karibu, au mtu ambaye ana mguso wa tofauti ndani ya moyo wako. Lakini ni vyema ukatengeneza mzani wa kupima hisia hasi na kuzikata badala ya kuzipa hifadhi kwa muda mrefu ndani yako.

Ukizipa hifadhi kwa muda mrefu zina tabia ya kuchoma nafsi yako na kila zikichoma nafsi yako zinakujengea hali ya kutaka kuzitoa. Na hapo wengi wamejikuta wakizitoa kwa msukumo unaosababisha maafa zaidi. Njia pekee ya kuzidhibiti hisia hasi ni kupumzisha nafsi yako kwa muda huku ukijaribu kuingiza hisia chanya.

Hisia chanya zinahitaji nidhamu kuziimarisha ndani ya nafsi yako, kwasababu asilimia kubwa ya watu wamezungukwa na mazingira hasi mfano ndugu walalamishi, marafiki wasiojali, wapendwa wasiokuelewa na wasioheshima uhuru wako na furaha yako. Inabidi ujipe likizo ya kinafsi. Ikiwezekana jijengee utaratibu hata wa kufunga kuendekeza hisia hasi kwa kipindi fulani kama jinsi ambavyo dini hufunga chakula au starehe fulani waweza funga kutoziendekeza hisia hasi.

Jenga utaratibu katika maisha yako wa kutozipa hifadhi hisia hasi wala kuziendekeza kwa muda mrefu. Hisia ni mfano wa mimea, kuna mimea bora na kuna magugu. Hisia hasi ni kama magugu. Tafuta kuwa mtu mwenye hisia chanya kila wakati. Ni sawa na chumba chenye uchafu na kila aina ya takataka...usipoweza kuondoa visivohitajika, chumba kitajaa na hewa itakuwa haizunguki vizuri. Usipoweza kupunguza hifadhi ya hisia hasi ndani ya nafsi yako, nafsi yako itajaa na hewa nzuri ya mazingira chanya haitozunguka vizuri ndani yako.

INVEST IN YOURSELF

How do you picture yourself? How do you see your life? How do you see your soul? How do you see your spirit? Do you see any area you can add more value in you. There is still more you can add in your life. You still have room for more. Invest in excellence. You still have more you can add.

Listen when you stop growing you start dying. And dying can start from your soul, mind and even your spirit. You slowly start to settle for whats below you. You slowly start to settle for what doesn't compliment you. Listen challenges should boost you to invest in yourself more.

Negative thinking will just drown you in negativity. Choose to direct your thoughts towards creating value in life. You can still be the best version of yourself. Refuse to settle in despair. Life is bigger than that...rise higher. A country like america invested in every sector to be the world superpower. Invest in every sector of your life. Your health, your skills, your financial life. Invest more and let you be needed for the value you have.

Feed your faith and your fears will flee, choose to distinguish yourself...Don't fit in, fit out with character and excellence. Be the best version of yourself for when you do that you will always stand out with an impact. Commit yourself in being a person of value and character. Enrich your soul with everything needful for you. Don't settle down crying and complaining. It wont help.

Walk in wisdom, choose to be a man of excellence. Focus on being a person that impacts the world and inspire people. Be the best person you would feel great to be around. Doubts should not be part of you, worry should leave you. Let you soul free to enjoy the beauty of life without regrets. Any pain you have, use it for greatness. Don't drown in it. Use it. Your purpose is greater than anything.